I am an Idaho parent saving my transgender child’s life. I am not a criminal | Opinion

I am not a criminal; my child is not a crime.

As a minister, it is my job — my calling — to support and accompany people — all people — in living their most whole, holy, authentic, faithful lives. My church community embodies this same practice with each other and with my family, too.

One of the guiding principles of our faith tradition affirms “the inherent worth and dignity of every person.”

One of the ways we live out that principle is in identifying ourselves as a welcoming congregation. In our denomination, this means we openly, unequivocally, enthusiastically welcome LGBTQ+ people, youth and families among us and that we have done our work to fully integrate them into our worship and congregational life. In fact, last year we passed a congregational resolution affirming and pledging our support to our trans and non-binary community. Because we believe every person is worthy. Every person is beautiful. Every person belongs. Every person.

When my teenager came out as transgender, I sprang into action, ensuring she had all the supports in place as we began what we both knew would be a long journey. I wanted my child to feel supported, safe and loved for exactly who she is — who she knows herself to be. She also knew this path was not simple or easy, and we all worried about how kids at school and the community at large would accept her. Hers, like so many trans youth, was not a rash decision; not an experiment that might be “fun” to try. Not in a society and a state that questions and attempts to criminalize her very existence.

House Bill 71 strips our transgender youth of their humanity and their right to receive vital, appropriate medical care from a trusted expert. Care that follows evidence-based best practices. It criminalizes parents like me and doctors ensuring our youth get to live out their true identity; protecting them from the spirals of depression, anxiety and suicidal ideation. We are not criminals. My child (and others like her) is not a crime.

We are blessed to have an extraordinary medical team partnering with us, with her, every step of the way, affirming her worth, value and instincts about her own body and identity.

That medical team includes a trained therapist; the doctors would not have allowed her to begin treatment without one. My daughter is wildly smart, an avid researcher, and thus she often knew far more about each mode of treatment than I did.

Nothing about this care is criminal. NOTHING.

For all the importance this legislature places on parental rights, what about my rights to seek the best possible care, every medical treatment possible, for my child? This bill is a slap in the face to my family, to families like mine, and to our medical community offering us the best of their skills and expertise.

I believe we are all created in the image of God and God named all of creation good. So in all the ways humanity shows up in our lives, we see the beauty of God reflected back to us. Nowhere is this more true than in our trans community and in the courage and beauty of our trans youth.

The suicide rate among trans youth in Idaho is astonishingly high. I worry about my child every day. But, I know that wrap-around, personalized medical care can be life saving. I expect my government representatives to help us protect our children, not put them at greater risk, making them more isolated and more marginalized.

This bill tells them they don’t matter.

I hope we tell them otherwise.