Dear Carolyn: I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about six months. We have a lot in common and there seems to be some potential here.
I recently had a pretty serious health scare (think ER visit, follow-up care required), and my boyfriend has been totally MIA. I can’t speak to his feelings, but his actions don’t indicate the level of care I’d expect from a serious partner.
Eh. Just tweak the vows: for better and for richer, and in health.
Speaking only for myself, I don’t choose my people just for crisis, but that’s when I need them most – so the question wouldn’t be how to talk about it, but whether I even need to.
This is about what works for you, so is there more information you’d like from him? Then that’s what you say.
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