There are ads on TV about domestic violence. Everyone should know the danger signs. But of course it doesn’t have anything to do with you or anyone you know. And then, one day, you hear a blurb on the news. Some man killed his wife and then shot himself. Why didn’t anyone recognize the problem? But what did they say the name was? Surely it can’t be. Not a couple you’ve known for over 40 years.
It’s true, your friend had been telling you that her husband was becoming verbally abusive, telling her that everything was her fault. He was becoming more controlling. He didn’t want her to leave home without him. But they had worked out their problems before so maybe it was just a phase.
Don’t deny and ignore. Pay attention to what you are hearing and make the suggestion to look for help — for your friend and/or her husband. Do it before it’s too late — before you hear about your old friends on the news. I didn’t and I’m sorry. What would have happened if I hadn’t waited?
Cheryl Weedon, Boise