Carolyn Hax: Advice

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Bombarded by unwanted calls and texts from friend’s husband

Hi, Carolyn: I recently reconnected with a very good friend from college. She has worked hard to bring our whole gang of college friends together and it has been fun … except, her husband has started to annoy me. He messages me every single day wanting to know how my day went, whether I had dinner and lunch! He finds some flimsy excuse, like wanting my professional opinion on something.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Providing the right support for son with brain cyst

Dear Carolyn: My wondrous 24-year-old son has just been diagnosed with a brain cyst. We haven’t seen the neurologist yet. I’m freaking out. Cysts are usually benign, but his is causing him problems – that’s what led him to the doc in the first place – and sometimes they are associated with tumors. There’s probably brain surgery coming.

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Anxious grandma can’t stop butting in

Hi, Carolyn: I’m having such a hard time staying out of my son’s situation. He and his girlfriend just moved into an apartment, but can barely pay rent. They have an 8-month-old, a little dog, and just got a tiny kitten. They lived with us for about a year but got tired of us “helping” or “telling us how to do things.”

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Dad’s friend may be emotionally abusive

Dear Carolyn: I’m looking for advice on how my sisters and I can deal with what we see as an emotionally abusive friend of our father’s. He cancels plans with us whenever she “needs” his help or thinks she might, he makes plans based on what she thinks best for him, he gives us her opinion as though it were his own. When we tell him how much he’s damaging his relationships with his daughters, he sounds like an addict promising that he’ll go clean, without any concrete plan. Last week he finally admitted that he doesn’t really want to change his dynamic with this woman, he just wants to be able to manage the logistics better so that helping her won’t make us angry.

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High school bully resurfaces and inspires fresh pain

Dear Carolyn: I was pretty badly bullied in high school since I was overweight, had bad skin, and had skipped a couple of grades, making me two years younger than my peers. In college, I started to “blossom”; I lost weight, I got into lifting weights, my skin cleared up, and I really enjoyed college. But those scars are always there, you know?

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Upset by granddaughter’s name

Dear Carolyn: My daughter and her husband live across the country from us, so we mostly talk with her on the phone several times per month. She recently shared the happy news that she is pregnant with a baby girl. This is her first child.

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Boyfriend vents about ex daily

Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend is divorced and the relationship with the ex is contentious and bumpy. I struggle when I hear the things he has to go through; I can’t imagine how he feels. I am the type to get super emotional and overinvolved when I hear about what I see as injustices or unfair or inappropriate behavior.

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