Carolyn Hax: Advice

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Husband feels used when wife isn’t dedicated to housework

Dear Carolyn: My wife has been a freelance consultant whose work has dried up. I have a good-paying job and I figured with her work having dried up, she’d take care of the house, bills, paperwork, etc., with her time. Instead, I don’t know what she does, but things are not put away, and if she spent as much time taking care of our house — for which I just paid for a hefty remodel, by the way — as she does defending herself and how busy she is, then there would be no problem. (She is busy with her hobby, when she does it, or seeing friends during the day.)

Carolyn Hax: Advice

She wants a fairy-tale wedding

DEAR CAROLYN: My girlfriend of three years always badgered me about getting married before our four-year anniversary. At first the arbitrary deadline annoyed me, but after living together for two years and working through the death of her mother, I really am taking the thought seriously. I’ve even started to save up for a ring.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

We went to the wedding of a friend’s ex. Trouble ensued

DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I have had a long and wonderful relationship with another couple that had marital problems, which eventually lead to a divorce. They were both unfaithful over the years and the man’s relationship became his new wife. The woman found several men, then met and married a wonderful man of her dreams.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

You’re never too old to go home again

DEAR CAROLYN: How do you figure out whether moving back “home” and blowing up your career in order to do so is the right thing to do? I realize you can’t answer this, but my husband and I are despondent living away from family lately and feel like we’re depriving our 2-year-old from being near aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents etc.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Don’t forbid your sisters from dating your friends

DEAR CAROLYN: You recently made an excellent point that the only one who can decide who someone dates is themselves. However, I am a woman with many male friends I won’t “allow” my sisters to date, and I would like to share that someone may have other reasons to step in. One is because my older sister dated a man I was friends with for five years before they met. When she broke up with him, he stopped talking to me. It was too painful for him because I reminded him of her.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Feeling vulnerable and lost in retirement

DEAR CAROLYN: I retired over a year ago from a fairly high-powered job that gave me worldwide recognition in my field. The decision to retire (in my mid-70s) was a very difficult one because I was not sure I could fill my time with engrossing activities. I’m still trying — with a combination of volunteering, mentoring and a few consulting gigs — but haven’t settled in comfortably, and I find the situation emotionally difficult.

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