Carolyn Hax: Advice

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Husband’s flight anxiety sentences wife and toddler to long road trips

Hi, Carolyn: My husband and I will be traveling to attend my mom’s wedding. It’s either a 13-hour drive (now that we have a child, it would probably actually eat up an entire day) or a 1 1/2-hour flight, plus brief transportation at each end. My husband hates to fly – mostly because he is frugal and dislikes being shuffled around by airlines, but also has slight confinement anxiety. He has a prescription for this when he absolutely has to fly, and it works well.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Mother asks permission to exclude daughter’s “lesbian friend” from family vacation

Dear Carolyn: We are planning a long-weekend vacation at a family-type inn with out daughters and grandchildren. One of our daughters has a lesbian friend whom she vacationed with last summer, and she plans to do so again this summer. My other daughter insists that we need to include this friend in our family vacation. Neither my husband nor I feels inclined to do so as we do not enjoy the personality of the friend.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Latecomer to dating might be regressing

Hi, Carolyn: I have a friend who just recently began dating and letting loose (we are 30). She’s now acting like an 18-year-old who doesn’t understand that you don’t change who you are to fit the guy. She plays mind games, constantly asks me for advice on “what to say to a guy” and generally reminds me of myself in the first few years of dating.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

How a group of friends can be there for an emotionally abused member

Hi, Carolyn: We have a friend, “Allen,” who has recently lost touch with us and who we believe is being manipulated and emotionally abused by his significant other. Over the course of their relationship, his now-wife: has joined herself to Allen’s hip in that he can’t make plans with others that don’t include her; occupies about 90 percent of his social interactions when they do attend events and parties together; has drastically changed his diet (former meat-lover to hard-core vegan); has rushed him into their life events, including moving in together, proposing, getting married, buying a house, and has even named their future children.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Significant other won’t tone down anger at home

Hi, Carolyn: I’m not an easily offended prude, but I recently asked my significant other if he could tone down the cursing at home. I told him that I know it’s not directed at me, but that his nightly profanity-fueled rants about politics, followed by the crude “comedy” he watches for entertainment, are making me feel like I’m under attack.

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