Carolyn Hax: Advice

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Two parents, and two sets of rules

DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I don’t see eye-to-eye on discipline. Our kids are generally good kids, but they don’t treat us with the respect I think we ought to have. When I announce that dinner is ready — the kids do not help at all — my husband is not bothered that our daughter does not come to the table until after we are finished eating. When I want to access the parent/student portal to find out our daughter’s grades, my husband defends the daughter’s right to not tell me.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Supporting niece through abusive relationship

DEAR CAROLYN: My accomplished adult niece, 43, has been having an affair with a married man for several years. He is an abusive alcoholic, according to my nephew. Since their mom, my sister, died, I have tried to be as supportive as possible to both of them. The affair is not a secret; she has brought him to family events and supposedly his wife knows.

Carolyn Hax: Advice

Feeling the chill from daughter-in-law’s cold shoulder

DEAR CAROLYN: I have known my daughter-in-law for 14 years, but we have no relationship. We have never had an argument or even any unkind words between us. Their son, our only grandchild, is the apple of my eye and we have a wonderful time with him. The problem is that no matter what I seem to do, my daughter-in-law shuns me. She rarely speaks to me. If I speak to her she responds with one or two words. On a recent visit to their home, there were no sheets on our bed, no towels, and no toilet paper in the bathroom. I had just sent them a gift for their anniversary, and it was sitting in the family room. She never acknowledged it or thanked us.

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