Major League Baseball’s rules against use of mobile phones, laptops, or texting during the game didn’t keep Red Sox second baseman Pablo Sandoval from running back into the clubhouse to use his phone to access Instagram during a 5-2 loss to the Braves last June.
That kind of disregard for what you should be focusing on is rampant, and has a name: phubbing, short for “phone snubbing.” In fact, recent research, published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior, found that almost 50 percent of folks have been phubbed by their partner, and it’s damaging their love life and bumming them out.
What are signs you’re being phubbed? Your honey positions his or her cellphone so it can be seen when you’re together; your partner glances at the phone while taking to you; and whenever there’s a lull in conversation, your partner checks the phone.
What’s the solution? Mention your concern (or text it, if necessary!) and negotiate a step-by-step change in behavior: Start by asking that the phone be kept face down on tabletops. After a week, ask for it to remain in a pocket or purse. Want to be really daring? Ask that it be turned off or left at home. Remember, the human race got along OK for many thousands of years before there were cellphones.
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