Relationship advice from Carolyn Hax at Idaho Statesman in Boise

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Hax: Angry grandma creates wedding drama

Hi, Carolyn: Our 24-year-old daughter, "Mary," is getting married this August.

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Hax: Couple has schedule conflicts

Dear Carolyn: My wife's work schedule is much more unpredictable and demanding than mine. I work a 9-to-5 job; she works anywhere from 55-60 hours, sometimes nights and weekends, and she doesn't have a lot of control over her schedule.
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Hax: Is friend playing favorites with kids?

Dear Carolyn: I have a very kind friend who has a great deal in common with me, including two preschool-age children. Our older kids are a few months apart in age, as are our toddlers. In repeated conversations lately, though, Friend seems to have a pronounced preference for Older Kid. Friend shares...
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Hax: Asking grandparents for equal gifts is tacky and insulting

Carolyn: I have a bizarre dilemma that needs a light touch in handling. My wife, my children and I are very close to my grandparents, who live within an easy drive. We still see them often, and never miss birthdays, holidays, etc. My grandparents are generous with gifts but, in recent years, gifts...
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Hax: Teach child how to problem-solve

Carolyn: My brother-in-law of 20 years has all the symptoms of workaholism. Despite her pleas for him to be more available to her, he continues to spend 14-hour days at the office, seven days a week. He's in denial, and my sister, his wife, seems to finally have had enough.
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Hax: Some battles are just futile

Carolyn: Is it unreasonable for my expecting wife and me to ask her family not to post pictures of our baby on Facebook once he's here?
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Hax: Don't hold your breath waiting on a proposal

Carolyn: How do I get past the feeling that I'm WAITING for my boyfriend to propose? I feel ready for and excited about marrying him, but I recognize and respect that he needs more time. While I am about 90 percent sure an engagement will happen, and am trying to be patient, I can't get past this...
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Hax: Need to have the 'move forward' talk

Carolyn: How do you tell someone you love that you think they might have a psychiatric issue that needs to be addressed, i.e., crippling anxiety?
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Hax: Listening is often the best advice

Carolyn: After a death in the family, my younger cousin (early 30s) decided to put her house on the market and move closer to family and friends. She was going to break up with her live-in boyfriend (whom she was largely supporting and who can barely keep a job), but then he proposed. She deliberated...
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Carolyn Hax: Adaptability will help with baby

Carolyn: I'm pregnant with my first baby and deciding whether I will return to my job after the baby is born. I'm the last among my friends to start a family, so I have seen friends choose both paths.
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Carolyn Hax: Mama bear becomes drama bear over wedding

Carolyn: My youngest sister is getting married in a few weeks. She's the only child from my dad's second marriage and the age difference between us is nearly two decades.