Sheryl Sandberg is back with new 'Lean In' advice book

THE ASSOCIATED PRESSApril 12, 2014 

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  • LEAN IN LOCALLY ...

    Lean In Boise meets twice a month at the Main Library in Boise. The current schedule is 10-11 a.m. the second Saturday of the month and 6-7 p.m. the third Wednesday. For more information, log on at https://circles.leanin.org/spaces/30300/. A second group, WIT (Women in Technology)+ Leaning In - Boise meets the same times, days and location.

It's been a year since Sheryl Sandberg came out with "Lean In," her best-selling manifesto for working women, launching a new catchphrase in the process.

Since then, more than 1.75 million copies have been sold; the book's out in 28 languages, and will be in eight more by the end of 2014 (a deal was just made for a Kurdish edition.)

And Sandberg's professed goal of seeing 1,000 Lean In "circles" - small support groups - formed within a year has been exceeded, actually, 16 times over. The Lean In foundation says 16,023 of them have formed, in 72 countries. As she often does on her travels, Sandberg, the chief operating officer of Facebook, met with one such group in China. "That was an emotional experience," she said. "I told them this was my dream."

There are also Lean In circles on 310 college campuses, where, Sandberg says, she's found that graduating students are craving more age-specific content than the book provided. And so, "Lean In: For Graduates," out Tuesday, includes the original text enhanced with new chapters, many containing concrete advice for graduates. For example: How to craft a resume (and get rid of those typos). How to handle a first interview. And how to negotiate a first salary.

Sandberg spoke to The Associated Press this week, her first U.S. interview about the new book. She also addressed those persistent rumors that she may be interested in a future in politics, and the continued debate over the word "bossy." (The interview has been condensed and edited for clarity.)

Q: The original book resonated so strongly. Why the need for a new edition?

A: The most common question I get is, "I really want to 'lean in,' but HOW?" Especially from younger people. So this is an attempt to answer some of those questions. Also, since "Lean In" was published, so many people wrote us these amazing stories that I just wanted a chance to share. The broadening perspective is really good. This gives us a chance to explicit ly address women of color. And men 'leaning in.' For one woman, her 'Lean In' moment was testifying against her rapist. It was hard to choose only 12 stories.

You know, if we get to equality, it's going to be this generation that does it. And they're going to have to start from the beginning of their careers.

Q: Three years ago, you gave a graduation speech at Barnard, which got everything started. Is there anything different you'd say in that speech today? (Note: Sandberg will give another commencement speech next month - at City Colleges of Chicago, a large community college system.)

A: Yes, I'm learning a lot from this process. What I would add now is the importance of supporting each other as we "lean in." I think what all these Lean In circles speak to, and what we suspected but didn't know, is how important it is to surround yourself with peers and make an explicit commitment to figuring out what your goals are, and going for it. So I would have added: "And don't do this alone!"

Q: How receptive has this new generation been to your message?

A: I'd say I've found this generation very receptive, and really hungry for specifics. Which is why we got these chapters written. About the smallest things, such as don't make typos on your resume. It's a shocking thing how many great graduates from great schools make mistakes. And do basic research. This is not your father's job search.

Q: What about male graduates? Are they thinking about supporting women?

A: What's clear is that we won't get to equality by just women working on it alone. We only get to equality if men and women work on it. And it has to be men doing it not just as a favor to women in their lives, but because it's good for THEM. And we can't wait until men are senior. It has to be the millennial men coming into the workforce.

A bunch of the surveys show that millennial men are much more interested in work-life balance, much more interested in having lives that are meaningful. The real question is, is that going to translate into doing more diapers, doing the laundry? Because that's what this takes.

Q: We have to ask: There have been rumors about your interest in political office in California.

A: I'm not running for office. I love Facebook. I really do. I love tech. I love how we connect people. And I love Lean In! I've met with circles all over the world. I have no plans to give this up.

Q: Let's talk about the word "bossy." You've launched a campaign to ban the word, when talking about girls. Some people have raised objections, saying that "bossy" isn't necessarily a damaging word, or on the other hand that "bossy" behavior is not necessarily to be encouraged.

A: The goal of Ban Bossy is to make people aware of how deeply entrenched our stereotypes are about women in leadership. It's a program with the Girl Scouts, designed to address a problem, which is that by middle school, more boys than girls want to lead, and that continues into adulthood.

My daughter has been called bossy. Lots of little girls are. My son has never been called bossy. And those patterns continue.

Listen, I always say: Next time you're about to call a little girl bossy, say instead that she has executive leadership skills. Everyone laughs. But then I say, think about saying that a boy has executive leadership skills. Nobody laughs. It's not funny. What that points out is how different our expectations are about boys and girls.

So the debate about "bossy" is fantastic, because every single person who talks about it starts out by acknowledging that we have different expectations for leadership in girls and boys - which is exactly what the point was.

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