Love, romance, passion … they’re all much more chemical than the poets would have us believe. In relationships, the lack of forgiveness (and the bitterness it will spawn over time) blocks the necessary brain stimulus that triggers the chemical euphoria of love and passion. The single most important response that two people can initiate to mend a broken relationship is forgiveness. It can be a difficult process for both parties involved, but the rewards are incalculable. It usually requires ample doses of grace, and grace does not come easy … most of us must seek a higher power to find the necessary grace to truly forgive.
We’re all incredibly unique individuals; therefore, some conflict is inevitable. But we can prevent conflict from ruining our relationships by exercising a little understanding and a lotta forgiveness.
Without forgiveness, all the marriage counseling in the world is useless; with it, counseling is usually unnecessary. Fact is, relationships cannot survive without both love and forgiveness, because both are dependent on each other.
It helps to remember love is reflexive … if ya want it, ya gotta give it. Paul McCartney said it well … “and in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.”
Michael Howard, Boise