Carolyn: Do you still feel that the way a person handles their dog is a good indicator of what kind of parent theyll be? Because if thats true my kids are going to be kitten-throttling serial killers. The dogs have too many toys, I plan most vacations so I can bring them along, and I have a habit of praising them for existing.
This means my kids are going to be entitled, self-centered, unsympathetic, instant-gratification-focused nightmares, right? And they probably wont run the vacuum, either.
I do still think that.
And if you plan to treat any children exactly as you treat your dogs, then, yes, CPS will look unkindly upon your letting the kids outside to poop in the yard.
Treating your dogs in a way thats right for dogs, though, usually means youll treat kids in a way thats right for kids, so its a fine indicator.
Re: Dog Ownership + Parenting: Although I suspect the dog owner was being facetious, I do think it is worth noting that in my experience, not disciplining/training your dog can translate to not setting boundaries for your kids. Personally, I dont think there is anything more annoying than a dog/child that does whatever it wants.
Both groups benefit from (and want) some boundaries/discipline.
Hi, Carolyn: I do not like my father-in-law. Hes rude, crass, obnoxious, argumentative. He also hugs me a bit too close and too long and has been caught looking at porn on our family computer. How do I deal with my feelings during family get-togethers?
Share what needs family action. I dont like your dad is not useful information, but Im uncomfortable around him is, when supported by specific examples.
Taking this approach will not only avoid adding needlessly to your husbands existing dad-burden, but it will be more honest than pretending youre OK with ol Dad.
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