Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Carolyn: I see that you have a liberal arts degree. I just earned my B.A. in English literature and I am proud of it. You would not believe the people who say, What are you going to do with that? Or, You wont get a job with that.
I have a very long explanation of why liberal arts degrees are still relevant, but their remarks seem to call for a shorter response than a dissertation.
It doesnt help that I havent actually figured out what direction I want to go in professionally, but I do know my degree has made me a more critical thinker and a better writer.
All of which is wonderful, and none of which your questioners give a (poop) about, since theyre mostly invested in confirming their own biases.
So, just tell them this: The moment you actually get a job, youll let them know how wrong they are.
Re: Liberal arts degrees: People who say things like You will never get a job are rude. Just reply neutrally with a Maybe or OK or If you say so.
Hey, Carolyn: Back on the dating market after a multiyear relationship and Im feeling a little unimpressed with the guys Ive encountered. One thing Ive noticed happening repeatedly is that after going on a few dates, the guys will always leave the ball in my court, usually by saying, Text me if you want to go out again.
To me, this reads as lack of interest, but then they want to know why I havent texted. This feels like terrible laziness and/or fear of rejection to me. Am I just behind the times?
If their asking you to text them is laziness and/or fear of rejection, then what do you call your refusal to text them?
Equality isnt a la carte, so in that sense, what these guys are asking is not only fair, but culturally overdue: If you want to see them, then say so. To me theyre just being pragmatic.
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