When she was in her 80s, the actress Jessica Tandy was asked by a young female reporter, At what age did you stop having sex? She smiled and replied, Ill let you know.
Heres some general biology. Around age 50-60, women may find that they have a slower response time, vaginal dryness and weaker orgasms because of decreasing hormone levels, lack of muscle tone, obesity, chronic pain, medications, surgery or emotional circumstances. And starting around age 50, men may take longer to have an erection, and have weaker erections and a longer refractory time for those same reasons. Fortunately, there are solutions:
Women: Topical estrogen can strengthen tissue, decrease intercourse pain and increase lubrication.
Men: ED medications can help with weak erections and slow arousal. Talk to your doc to see if theyre for you.
Women and men: Healthful food choices, regular physical activity, managing stress and avoiding tobacco reduce bodywide inflammation.
Doing exercises (Kegels) to strengthen vaginal and pelvic muscles can increase responsiveness. If you can stop your flow of urine with your muscle contractions, youre doing them right.
Creative intimacy is also important: There are a lot of satisfying ways to stimulate one another and express your feelings, so experiment. Talk to your partner and your doctor to find ways to express your passions.
Mehmet Oz, M.D., is host of The Dr. Oz Show, and Mike Roizen, M.D., is chief medical officer at the Cleveland Clinic Wellness Institute. To live your healthiest, visit sharecare.com. Distributed by King Features Syndicate, Inc.