Hax: Baby names need to wait for a baby

The Washington PostApril 27, 2013 

Adapted from recent online discussions.

Carolyn: In a recent conversation with my significant other, we started talking about baby names we like (no chance of kids yet). He mentioned one boy's name he really wanted to use. It is the name of one of my exes and I am really opposed to using it. There are a few names I wouldn't want to use, boy and girl, because they remind me of people I really do not want to be reminded of. Thoughts?


Each parent has veto power over a name, but, for what it's worth, an association with a non-significant ex will be quickly erased as your someday baby inhabits the name. If the association is too bad for that to be true, then you can both stop reading at "Each parent has veto power."

Unasked-for bonus advice: Save any digging in on names for when you and the person in question conceive the child in question and the child turns out to be of the sex of the name in question. Until then, it's guaranteed that you have better things to fight about, even if you haven't thought of them yet.

Dear Carolyn: My husband's family lives about an hour away from us. For the last two weekends, we've gone up to stay with his parents to help them plan a big surprise party for his grandmother's 90th birthday. We attended last weekend.

Now we're being asked to come up again this weekend for a family birthday dinner. In addition to the exhaustion of the last few weeks, we are on a very tight budget, and every trip to see them costs us in gas.

When we told my mother-in-law this, she said we need to come up and Yiayia would be very offended if we couldn't make it.

We feel we did right by her when we celebrated at her party, but are we just being too selfish here?


"I'm sorry to hear that." That's all you need to say in response to any declaration that Yiayia will be offended.

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