Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Carolyn: Any helpful tips for a co-worker/friend who is constantly glued to his BlackBerry? He's openly admitted to a compulsion with it because he can't stand unopened emails. But every happy hour, party, road trip, etc., his face is glued to that screen.
What's more annoying is that the conversation will continue, and then he'll ask all these questions to "catch" himself up. For example, if we all bust out laughing, he'll FINALLY put down that phone and ask, "Wait what's so funny?" We have said to him, "Can you please get off that thing?" And it's always "One more email" and then 10 minutes later it's back in his hand, but this time under the table.
Seriously, I don't even know why he even bothers to socialize with us. The one good thing is he never does it when the big boss is around, so at least there's that.
You can, and I hope you do, refuse to answer his catch-up questions, since answering only insulates him from the consequences of his choice to get lost in his phone.
His not doing it around the boss says it is plainly a choice. He's aware that the consequences of insulting Boss are not acceptable, but the consequences of insulting you (because you all keep absorbing them) are acceptable.
Carolyn: I have a pregnant friend who is driving me crazy. It seems like with every passing week, she gets more demanding and rude. I was at the mall with my mom when she called twice. She immediately asked if I could drive her to a mechanic. I told her I would not be able to take her for a couple hours. How can I tell her I don't like the person she is turning into?
Do: Address her encroachments into your business - "It sounded like you wanted me to drop everything to take you to the mechanic, and, if true, I have a problem with that."
Don't: Address your global "she is going to be one of THOSE moms" impressions.
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