Dear Amy: For the last several years, Ive been meeting with a small group of friends for a late holiday dinner.
This year, the hostess has asked for $20 from each of us toward the cost of the meal, citing rising food prices. We agreed. Meanwhile, I was given a 20-pound turkey and told her that I would contribute the turkey to the meal and therefore shouldnt owe any money. She said the bird didnt count since I hadnt paid for it. I countered that it was still $20 less than she would have to spend.
She got mad and called me a cheapskate, but I beg to differ. Which of us do you think is the cheapskate here?
SICK OF TURKEY
Dear Sick: Im with you. Your contribution has value, even if you didnt pay for it. If your friend wants to host a very low-cost dinner, she can run it as a potluck.
I dare say that this is not really about a turkey and a 20 dollar bill, however. If you want this friendship to survive into the new year, you should ask your friend what is really going on before judging her too harshly.
Dear Amy: Id like to weigh in on the letter from Kissed Consultant, who was shocked when a male client pulled her toward him and kissed her on the lips after a lunch meeting.
Honestly, when I read the letter the first thing I thought was that she should have slapped him right across the face. I like to think I would have done that.
ALSO A CONSULTANT
Dear Also: If only real life was like an old black-and-white movie, where a dame could slap a heel right across the kisser. Thats certainly what Rosalind Russell would have done, and maybe its also what you would have done, but just as an unwelcome kiss is an affront, a slap is a (potential) assault. Alas, life aint like the old days.