Adapted from a recent online discussion.
Carolyn: My husband and I fight about food, constantly.
I grew up with fresh food. He grew up with chips and a candy bar as an integral part of every meal.
It wasnt a big deal when we first got together, but Ive since changed a lot (vegetarian, but Ill cook meat for him), and he believes hes the one making all of the compromises. Thats true, but since theyre for health reasons, I think he should do it and stick around another 50-70 years.
Oh, and our young kids are now VERY aware of whats on Daddys plate versus theirs.
I know Im being a pain, too, but Im sick and tired of Husband complaining about what Im cooking, and the kids screaming for whats on Daddys plate.
I dont have the energy to make two dinners every night. Any suggestions? Both of us are at healthy weights, but have a lot of diseases in our families that are helped by healthy diets.
How about a deal: You back off on giving him crap about what he eats, and he doesnt eat it around the kids.
That leaves the problems roots intact, but since your husband apparently doesnt buy into healthy examples for children(!), you have to anticipate his being too far gone to accept reason.
So, surface will have to do and if you must settle for one goal, your kids relationship with food is the best one.
Re: Food Fight: Wow, this could have been me. We finally resolved it this way: Mom cooks one menu for everyone. Anyone may refuse food, but no complaints allowed. If you dont like it, dont eat it and wait till the next meal.
Dad can eat what he wants, in private, if he buys it for himself, or he can cook a square meal of his choosing at any time. It was a fair deal, and eventually he came around.
Sanity! Welcome to the table.
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